Growing up with an older brother and our dad, it was a gift to spend so much time with them playing sports, wrestling, and teaming up trying to beat our dad. Thing I became aware of very quick was the fact we had all this energy and were ready and wanting to use it to out run or even just out last or dad. Thing was while we may have gained an upper hand at some points, even with it being 2 to 1, our dad would constantly win.
As I observed, even though we had all this energy and would be running circles around him, he would stand still, being aware, and only moving or speaking when needed. Using his mind, body, and energy with intention and control. Even though it caught me off, I could see the benefits of what he was doing and how it played out as a kid growing up.
As I grew up and learned more I started to realize that the manner in which my dad was playing, was a direct example of how maturity is used as understood. As children we have an abundance of energy, of thoughts, of emotions, yet little to no idea how to control any of them. As we go through life, we learn from interacting with other's, from trying different ways of control and freedoms. Essentially even without knowing or thinking about it, we are constantly going through extensive trial and errors. Even as adults some find a good balance of energy and control, the initial expression of maturity.
As we have more experiences and lose our energy we began understand the things and people worth using the limited supply of energy we have, yet at the same time being mindful of where and when to use it. This is the next level of maturity that I have observed and experienced. I used to waste do much energy and time, yet recently I am becoming surprisingly aware of the ability I have to control my energy and use it in more appropriate times and manners.
I recall me and I my dad playing basketball one on one, I was a grown teenager and actually about the same size or bigger than my dad at that time. I still had more energy than he did, and as I thought I had more strength than he did, so I continued to try to drive in for layups. To no avail. Even though I was bigger, stronger, and had more energy than my dad, he used his body with control and intention, he didn't waste it chasing the ball, or going for fakes, he stayed in the lane and stopped me from getting to the hoop. If there's one example I know of maturity it was my dad keeping me from the hoop.
People are going to try to get past your own understandings, their going to try and get your goat, their going to want you to use up all your energy chasing lies and empty statements, but with maturity you know this and you know what you need to do to stop them from getting to the hoop. They may have more energy and try running around in chaos, they may be bigger and stronger in their attempts, but with maturity none of that matters. What others say and do is not worth your energy and the determination to achieve your peace in life.
I still await the last piece of maturity I have be able to observe, the ability to not care what others think or say about me. It's a maturity that is carefree and enjoyable.
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